40 healthy relationship signs

So this is my take on the 40 healthy relationship signs. It’s not all smiles and kissy-face; but it’s real.
1. You can be your true selves with each other. (Scary huh?)
2. You feel comfortable sharing your deepest thoughts, fears, and emotions with each other. ( You need that feedback and other view)
3. You rarely lie to each other. (Rarely is key, the little white lies like “yes seafood is great when you want steak, not the I don’t know where the $1000 went” )
4. You refrain from being brutally honest. (I don’t want to know what you think of my clothes every day!)
5. You give each other space and/or “Me time.” (Personal space is important, I do not want to have a discussion in the bathroom)
6. You make it through rough times as a couple without splitting up. (It happens)
7. You agree (or genuinely agree to disagree) on financial matters. (This #1 cause of divorce for a reason, agree or agree to disagree but don’t fight over it)
8. You treat each other the way you would like to be treated, not necessarily the way you feel you’re being treated at the moment. (You always get more flies with honey)
9. You and your mate completely deal with problems, refusing to leave them unresolved until resentments form. (Except when you are to angry to talk, then walk away however leave nothing for more than 24 hours)
10. You forgive each other for mistakes. (Mistakes happen to everyone!)
11. You don’t tell each other what you should or shouldn’t think/feel. (Feelings are personal don’t tell the other person what to feel!)
12. You both listen without interrupting. (I’m working on this one myself)
13. You respect each others’ privacy. (Again the personal space issue)
14. You speak each others’” Love Language” even if it’s different from your own. (Are you the love notes, the flowers person or the new vacuum person, speak it and appreciate it about the other person even if you wanted the flowers and got a vacuum)
15. You willingly make sacrifices for each other. (This one is hard because society is so self centered! But sacrifices sometimes make or break a relationship)
16. You share mutual interests and activities. (You must share something, right?)
17. You respect each others’ individuality and make the most of your differences. (Being unique is everyone’s right! Enjoy the difference in your mate, being the same would be dull)
18. You act as each others’ backbone, providing loving support without guilt. (Be supportive even if you disagree!)
19. You share spiritual beliefs OR a spiritual connection. (Believe or not it’s important that you share that connection)
20. You show sensitivity to each others’ needs. (This is so important when the other is struggling!)
21. You discuss and negotiate instead of fighting. (This is what fighting fair is all about)
22. Each partner takes responsibility for their own thoughts and feelings. (Personal responsibility!)
23. There is mutual trust and dedication. (This includes when you are not together as well, ALWAYS speak well of your partner!)
24. You have a strong friendship. (They should be your best friend!)
25. In addition to loving each other, you genuinely like each other. (This is so huge, the loving someone but not liking them doesn’t work, they need to be your friend as well!)
26. You don’t judge or force your opinions on each other. (Vote Democratic and marry a republican its okay!)
27. You take quality time to nurture your relationship. (date night, vacations or TV time but time together!)
28. You are both attentive to the needs of yourself and the other. (You also have to sometimes ask for what you need)
29. You enjoy physical contact (hugs, kisses, cuddling, sex) together.
30. You show appreciation for each other. (OVERUSE I love you!)
31. Hardship, uncertainty, and disagreements are accepted as a part of life. (It’s going to happen)
32. You communicate openly and meaningfully with each other. (Communicate NOT miscommunication and hold hands when talking!)
33. There is equal power between you and your mate.
34. You keep your expectations of each other in check.
35. You genuinely apologize to one another when feelings are hurt. (Keyword is genuine don’t say sorry if you are not!)
36. You and your mate speak up assertively instead of expecting the other to read minds. (Remember what assume means!)
37. You both eliminate passive aggressive behavior (ignoring, silent treatment, eye rolling, stomping, and hanging up the phone) as much as possible.
38. You have a strong sense of interdependence (mutual responsibility) to each other rather than dependence or co-dependence.
39. You avoid going to bed mad. (Physical closeness helps greatly with this talk about it, looking eye to eye and hold hands!)
40. You CAN live without each other, but you choose each other over every alternative choice. (This person is your #1 Choice!)